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1 daughter
3 sons.
my fair share of challenges
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Tuesday, September 16, 2008


has been sent home not even an hour into school he decided to play barber shop with a little girls hair today i was helping Michelle with house work while she took a shower and relaxed so they had to call Scott and they got mad because he had to come after 11 to get him they said we really need an emergency number were you can get them with in 5 minutes
what am i to do basically this teacher labled him a problem child the first day he got out of line and wont work with us or with him she said he isn't ready for school he should be in kindergarten next year my son is almost 6 i hope the principal will listen to use in switching teachers if not well we will pull both our kids out of school and find one were they will work with noah and challenge rainey

my dad said find a free chater school were they help out and work with the stdents it shaped up my brother and made him smarter


NatalieHemingway said...

Melissa. Look into Reach Academy. It's right around 10 mile and kelly area. It just opened up this year and I'm hearing GREAT things. You know how they say "you only get one chance to make a first impression?" It sounds like Noah needs a second chance and a teacher and administrators who will help with his special needs.

Michelle said...

If you go with Natalie's suggestion of Reach Academy I can tell you a bit about the program since it's an NHA school and I taught at an NHA school. It's very academic based with kids testing several times throughout the year. If they do it right, the kids are put in ability group classes, so Rainey would most likely be in the advanced class. Based on Noah's behavior they may decide to put him in a class called young 5s (although since he's almost 6 they may decide against that, I really don't know, I was at the middle school level). If he's placed in young 5s he would most likely have to repeat Kindergarten next year.

I don't know if this is true of the younger grades, but they do tend to move kids around based on their various test scores. So it is possible they will not be in the same class year round (we moved some 6th graders every 10 weeks, yikes!).

Also keep in mind with charter schools there are often fewer services available so there will be more main stream special ed kids in the classes.

I'm sorry that you had to go home to a not so great situation. But I did appreciate you coming over this morning:o)!

Michelle said...

Oh and one other thing about charter schools (yes they can be a good thing but I enjoy bashing them too) is that you will often have many inexperienced teachers because teachers with many years experience want to work in the public schools. In MI charter schools are seen as a stepping stone to gain experience so you can get a real job.

The Amayesings said...

I enjoyed hearing about the Reach Academy. I also taught for a group of charter schools in AZ. So I feel very similar to Michelle. They can be great, but they are also faced with many challenges.

I actually spent some time writing you a comment yesterday, but it apparently didn't get sent. Here's the gist of what I said:

Whether you change classes or schools, Noah needs a POSITIVE change where he is set up to succeed. So knowing what you know about him, I'd meet BEFORE he enters his new environment with his new teacher/school and develop a plan for his success.

I used to mentor reg. ed. teachers who had kids with challenging behaviors. Here are some things I recommended or helped them implement: 1. Establish a few clear, easily understood rules (ca be done at both at home as well as at school) Ex: Stay in your seat. Raise your hand to speak. Keep your body to yourself. Sometimes even the most simply stated rules escape the kids without a little bit of explanation and even some practice. 2. Establish fair and CONSISTENT consequences for both appropriate and inappropriate behavior. Praise is an excellent one that kids who have difficulty behaving don't hear enough. Praising every attempt to do the right thing helps him see that he can be successful. Other forms of positive consequences are stickers, pat on the back, points toward a bigger prize like free choice time or a special prize from mom. Consequences for negative (unwanted) behavior are time-outs or removal of a priviledge. I prefer time-outs because it is less negative and it provides a teaching moment where the child has no other option but to listen to you for a moment so you can tell them what they did wrong and the right thing to do when they are finished with their time out. But-- time-outs can be over-used and can be ineffective if the poor kid's in time-out the majority of his day. That's why praise and clearly stated expectations are SOO IMPORTANT! So #3 is: State your expectations clearly before you ask the child to respond. If you say something, that child needs to know that you mean it. SAY WHAT YOU MEAN AND MEAN WHAT YOU SAY. No idle threats that you can't or won't follow through with. CONSISTENCY is KEY. (Whenever I say that I have to laugh a little because at home I'm a lOT less consistent than I ever was teaching. Mom-ing is much more exhausting. But I do try and I find that when I am consistent, the kids behave better.) And 4. Communicate!! As a parent I have found that I have to initiate the communication with teacher. If Noah knows that you and the teacher and the administrator(s) are all on the same page and are committed to his success, he's going to feel supported and will have less opportunity to try to manipulate situations. (I have one that will try every angle if he has to sometimes, but he tries less if he knows Mom's calling to follow up on something.) Communication doesn't need to include lengthy phone conversations every single day. A simple note home or a quick email might be easier for the teacher to tackle.

Anyway, I'm sorry I took up so much space, but I thought I'd throw some ideas out there for you. I know they're pretty basic and are very much common sense items. But if you're like me, sometimes in the heat of the situation, I tend not to readily recall common sense and go into panic mode. So I hope you'll forgive me if these things seem very juvenile or like "Duh, Tia, I know all of this already."

The main thing is that you get the next teacher/school on board with you and show your willingness to work closely with them to help Noah succeed.

I hope this helped even a smidge. Hang in there. Keep us posted on his progress.